From perpetually swiping through dating apps to deciphering the intricacies of new relationships, the experience can be discouraging for both genders.
Moreover, with Valentine’s Day approaching, it serves as a stark reminder of our single status…
While the upcoming month may encourage more dating endeavors, it’s crucial not to settle simply because it’s still technically cuffing season.
We’re advised to be authentic while dating to find a genuine match.
However, it’s understandable why some might adopt a more spirited persona to tackle first-date jitters.
Yet, as shared by women on Reddit, there’s a specific personality trait some men might exhibit that is a complete turn-off.
On the social media platform, someone asked, “Women, what isn’t nearly as attractive as a lot of guys think it is?”
Among the 1,200 responses, one answer prominently stood out.
Leading the discussion was the concept of ‘alpha’ energy, often used to describe ‘the most dominant, powerful, or assertive man in a particular group’.
This doesn’t just refer to a confident individual who can hold a conversation.
Alpha males are notorious for taking dominance to an extreme, often displaying traits associated with toxic masculinity—traits advocated by controversial figures such as Andrew Tate to attract women.
While many might doubt the existence of such ‘alpha’ males, numerous comments on the Reddit thread highlight their stereotypical features.
One user elaborated: “Being persistent and exuding dominant energy when we’ve expressed disinterest, even if there was initial interest,” while another pointed out: “Acting like an ‘alpha’ just makes me feel unsafe when alone in a room with you.”
Another comment highlighted: “Acting macho. I desire a man with emotional intelligence, not one who punches a wall to express care.”
One woman agreed that excessive dominance in conversation is off-putting, noting: “It deeply annoys me when men don’t allow others, especially women, to express themselves.”
She added that ‘men who ask questions and genuinely listen are incredibly attractive,’ explaining that it demonstrates emotional awareness and engagement.